au revoir!

Well guys, it's been fun here at spilling the beans, but it's time to say goodbye.

Goodbye to the freebie host and subdomain.

Goodbye to the fantastic blogging software that has done nothing wrong by me.

Goodbye to the hours spent uploading every single post when I change themes!

Goodbye to having to play by other peoples rules.

Goodbye to the memories that resurface each time I open this site as my life sits here before me on the screen....

With the goodbyes, comes some hellos.

Hello to the new domain - that is 100% mine.

Hello to wordpress which whilst a little confusing, is already proving to be a great piece of software.

Hello to a new hosting service which has been a breeze to sign up with and use.

Hello to a new kind of blog. More content, less frills. I've done the pretty flashing things in the sidebar, the numerous stats counters that all tell me something different, the many and varied things I've tried, tweaked, kept or taken away. Lets face it, there have been so many I've forgotten more of them than I remember :)

Hello to more of me again...the one that used to write on a daily basis about anything and everything

No overhaul would be complete without a new title and look. So when I say, 'say goodbye to spilling the beans', I mean that literally. It is without any further ado that I introduce you to my brand new blog:

NO REGRETS

Thanks for the memories :)

p.s For those of you signed up via the feedburner rss feed, you don't need to change anything, I'll be doing that later on tomorrow/today depending on when you read this. If necessary please alter your bookmarks and/or change your blogrolls. I really do promise this one is here for a very long time :) I'm done with all the changes. It's time to sit back and enjoy my life :)

woohoo!

I've got a hard on.....the f18s are back in town.

Must go clean up mess now :)

stay tuned..

I've been working on a few things in the background here at spilling the beans. As I'm want to do! I have a couple things I'm looking into, trying out etc etc which I'll let you all know about before long...

In the meantime why not check out some of the archives, or go take a geezer at those who are on my blogroll! Tell em I said hi, I've been a little slack, I've been reading, but not commenting much. Doesn't mean don't love em anymore though! Anyway, have fun and wish me luck in my ventures into the unknown........

memories

After a few requests regards my poems -and I use the term loosely :) -, here is a little something I wrote back in September. I write to express myself, so at the time of writing emotions are usually fairly raw and I can't share until those emotions are dealt with...enjoy.

kissing a memory,
too old to remember,
pain still so fresh, but
I will not surrender
who built the walls,
was it me, was it you?
too great to bring down,
if only you knew
my silence betrays,
just how lost I feel,
need to find me again,
need to be real
the taste of tomorrow,
so inviting and sweet,
with yesterday gone,
the worlds at my feet
what will I do with it?
can't let myself down
maybe the numbness
will finally drown
but hope springs eternal
I can still see the sun
if only it shone
then i'd be done

©2006

comebacks..

I very rarely post funny emails that I get, but here is an excerpt of one that I received earlier this week:

SMART ASS ANSWER #3
The cop got out of his car and the kid who was stopped for speeding rolled down his window. "I've been waiting for you all day," the cop said. The kid replied, "Yeah, well I got here as fast as I could." When the cop finally stopped laughing, he sent the kid on his way without a ticket.

SMART ASS ANSWER #2
A truck driver was driving along on the freeway. A sign comes up that reads, "Low Bridge Ahead." Before he knows it, the bridge is right ahead of him and he gets stuck under the bridge. Cars are backed up for miles. Finally, a police car comes up. The cop gets out of his car and walks to the truck driver, puts his hands on his hips and says, "Got stuck, huh?" The truck driver says, "No, I was delivering this bridge and ran out of gas." <-----this is my personal favorite!

SMART ASS ANSWER #1
A college teacher reminds her class of tomorrow's final exam. "Now class, I won't tolerate any excuses for you not being here tomorrow. I might consider a nuclear attack or a serious personal injury, illness, or a death in your immediate family, but that's it, no other excuses whatsoever!" A smart-ass guy in the back of the room raised his hand and asked, "What would you say if tomorrow I said I was suffering from complete and utter sexual exhaustion?" The entire class is reduced to laughter and snickering. When silence is restored, the teacher smiles knowingly at the student, shakes her head and sweetly says, "Well, I guess you'd have to write the exam with your other hand."

Now the reason I even mention these is because I recently came up with my own great comeback....***Update, this is not an unusual occurrence for me by the way, far from it, it's just that this one in particular has been a long time coming...round here we serve comebacks for brekkie, free of charge even :)

In our household, there has been for all time, and will probably be engraved on Mum's headstone, a favorite saying that is used on a regular basis. It is common practice to utter the phrase "Women's not a camel you know!" whilst waiting patiently for a cuppa that has been offered/bought/promised and has yet to materialise. Whilst chatting on yahoo messenger last night - and before you say it yes, I realise the idiocy in instant messaging someone who is literally no more than 2 feet away, hey she's got a new toy and is having fun! - I get a message from her..

Mum - "women's not a camel you know..."

Me - "Well I should hope not, if you were, your humps are on backwards"

hehehehehehehehehehehehehehe

Sorry, I thought it was good :)

Got any of your own comebacks that you'd care to share? The more smart ass like, the better...

Have a good weekend people, I probably won't be around much, have a very hectic social calender. Ok, techincally I don't, Zoe does, but seeing as how she can't do them on her own, I can claim them right?!!

ethical dilemma...

Ok, I got a book out from the library called "101 Ethical Dilemmas" by Martin Cohen- just for fun. I know, I know, how sick am I right?! Anyway, thought I'd share one with you all...let me know what you would do! And be honest, this is just a blog, not some worldwide forum where what we say adversely affects the rest of humankind. Have fun....

"Sam's live-in partner has a taste in expensive nik-naks - things like toasters which burn an icon of the day's weather on the toast, or solar-powered fountains for the garden pond. The toaster is in the cupboard as it always burnt the middle of the tast and under-did the rest, whilst the garden fountain clogged up after a day and sank to the bottom of the pond.

Unsolicited, a catalogue drops through the letterbox from a very fancy - and expensive - postal store, computer-addressed to the partner.

Should Sam quietly get rid of it before they can be misled - or give it to them when they get home and wait for the next disastrous mistake?"

Personally I would LOVE to throw the thing straight in the bin, but I'm not convinced this would be the right thing to do.

For one thing, the mail is addressed to a particlar person, therefore Sam is throwing out someone else's mail. If it had been addressed to the 'householder' or some other generic term, then so sad, too bad, adios.

On another note, surely Sam's partner has the right to choose what he/she purchases with their money? To take away that choice is an infringement on his partner's freedom. It's not Sam's choice to make.

Having said all that, I'm sure everyone would think along the lines of 'Well, they would never know would they?' and I will admit, I'd be one of them. As for whether I'd act on it? Put me in that position and I'll let ya know :)

Feel free to discuss in finer detail. I doubt that I'll be blogging tomorrow. Between PT session yesterday, swimming this morning and Yoga this evening I have a funny feeling my body is going to rebel in a big way tomorrow. Besides, mum's got a new toy that I need to tweak, but I'll let her tell you all about that one......have fun!

choices..

I'm lucky enough to live in a country where we have the freedom of choice. Combined with the variety of careers, the options that both women, and men, now have in society and the knowledge we possess as a whole, there are now more choices than ever to be made. But is this a good thing? Are we happier people for it? Sometimes I seriously wonder if we are indeed better off.

As a women, I now have more choice than ever before. I can choose a career, and in any field in which I'm competent. I have the choice of being a single mother, live in a defacto relationship, or even be the one to ask for a divorce. Heck I can even vote these days! But is the choice complicating things? Can I truly ever be content with what I've got knowing that there is so many other options open to me? What if I do this childcare course, and get a job. Am I going to wake up in 5 or so years and think "Gee, what if something else I could have done would be even MORE satisfying?" The same can be said for matters of the heart. Once upon a time, marriage was FOREVER, literally. The only way you got out of a marriage was in a pine box. Nowadays, it seems as though marriage and/or relationships are as disposable as the new age toasters we buy that are more expensive to repair than to replace. And between the world becoming smaller and smaller with sophisticated means of communication and faster means of transport, and the increase in population, the number potential partners has increased exponentially. So are we always on the lookout for someone better? Is it easier to 'replace' rather than 'repair'? Do we bow out too early knowing there are more choices out there? Why are we eternally searching for 'perfect' or near perfect, when 'content' used to be ok?
I've just read this through again, and just want to clarify something. I don't mean this last paragraph to appear as though I'm suggesting people stay married no matter WHAT. All I'm saying is that I think lots of people just run at the first sign of a bad spot, and all relationships have them, rather than try to work through what could be a temporary thing because they think that something better is out there. Many relationships run their course naturally, or people grow apart, or change, things never get worked out no matter how much you try etc etc...

Pay TV vs free to air is one example of where too much choice isn't necessarily a good thing. Here in Aus we have 5 free to air channels. On pay tv with every channel open there are around 40. So how come we are quite content with the free to air, but as soon as austar is in the house there is nothing to watch? I believe that it's because with so much choice, we are always looking for something better. Your flicking through, see something you wouldn't mind seeing, but secretly wonder if there is something you want to watch even more is on, or coming up.

When we have more choice, we have higher expectations. I think this is because we automatically assume there are levels of choice. I can choose this cake and it will nice, but gee, that cake could even be nicer because it's more expensive, or made with different ingredients. We can choose between first class, business, and economy when flying a plane. Even when making purchases we now have much more choice. But again, we always wonder, did we make the RIGHT choice? Was there a better one out there? At what point will we allow ourselves to be happy with the choices we've made and accept the life those decisions have given us instead of looking at the other side and wondering if the grass is greener?

More choice has benefited society as a whole. Medicine, education, lifestyle. These are all aspects which have been enhanced by variety and choice. But as individuals, I'm not so sure somedays. Then on others I think, shit, do I have the "Kona or Hazelnut coffee?' and I think that life can't get any better than this...